I & my indulgence

Friendship becomes a relationship, the relationship turns into intimacy, and intimacy turns into indulgence. It all seems so cozy and calm to read between the lines, but it is equally tough to make it transit from one level of relationship to other. While friendship is valuable, cherished and adored. Intimacy leads to fracture in relationships.

Expectations keep on soaring exponentially, one after the other. When these are not met, it causes a lot of dis rest & discomfort. Indulging in someone is not good so much so that it creates havoc and discern. Indulgence is good in fun times, but not all the time. As they say that excess of everything is bad. Intimacy directly hits the brain the heart and the soul. It may be a motivator as well as a degenerative catalyst. Depends on the magnitude and momentum of the indulgence. In most of the cases it’s harmful only.

In one of the very famous restros where they have the buffet system they had written on their menu cards "don’t hesitate to indulge your self in the cuisine". The food is awesome and so is the place and the crowd. But how much can one indulge in the food too? There is a limit to how much one can consume. If over done can lead to upset stomach, cramps or stomach aches. Indulgence too has its own limit.
Neither go out of your way to do things nor overdo the things. Don't give others a chance to use you as a doormat. Never open yourself to people too much, so much so that your soul gets naked. Soul is untouched and unscathed and it should be that way. Everything in this universe stays balanced, for all the positivity is the negativity as the counter force. For the centrifugal force is the counter centripetal force, in as basic a unit as an atom. The same way indulgence is an act that will drain you slowly but steadily. Don’t fall into a ditch that will ditch you up big time, and leave you battered and shattered. Better realize the pitch of the ditch before letting yourself free fall into it.

Indulgence is a free fall without a parachute. The flight is good, and has its own excitement and adrenalin rush, but at the end is a Wang Bang Wang crash into the ground. It will obviously be an explosion. In a collision there you are, but in an explosion where you are?

Realize indulgence will cause you more pain, agony, trouble than good. Indulgence will also give space to jealousy, doubt and may be in the worst cast infidelity. There is no scale to weigh the magnitude of indulgence or the commitment between two individuals towards each other. So what happens if one person gives more into a relationship that what is being delivered back. It changes the focus and balance completely from one individual to other. This paradigm shift will eventually strain the relationship to such an extend that it will split apart like the tendons of a rubber band. There is no adhesive to repair this stranded tendon. Even if healing has a chance, the healing happens at its own pace. But the restoration of faith, trust, and compassion is not to that a level, at which it was. Faith, trust once gone, takes its own time to come back or in worst case may not even come back.
So let the fire of compassion and warmth always burn in you, but keep the torch of indulgence always low in yourself, because it will only burn out all the fuel and fury in you, leaving you high & dry. Bon voyage in this ship of friendship, and keep away from the pirates of indulgence.